When I think about this question, I think about myself in many of my life settings where I struggled to answer, why am I afraid of change? Until we are put in these situation this question seems to be easy to answer. However, when the time comes and you have to ask yourself why, it becomes quite challenging. If you are like me, I have had to ask myself this question in my relationships, my life and overall self worth mentality.

It is important to remember that generalizations about any group of people, including brown girls, can be misleading and unfair. Individuals’ attitudes towards change can vary greatly regardless of their ethnicity or background. People’s comfort or resistance to change is influenced by a variety of factors, including their personality traits, personal experiences, cultural upbringing, and societal influences.

Fear of change is a common human emotion experienced by people of all backgrounds. It can stem from concerns about uncertainty, the fear of the unknown, or the potential for negative consequences. However, I have been asked the question is it fair to say all brown girls feels the same way? Are we all afraid of change? Well, here is my opinion and you will always hear my personal thoughts on anything we talk about. But, I feel maybe 5-10 years from ago, yeah maybe the attitude from “Brown Girls” could have swayed one way or the other, because there were less anxiety of being accepted and overthinking if “Am I enough” to accomplish set goals, BUT not in our society today. The support has swift backwards in return has made brown girls back away from moving forward with change because we are afraid of rejection, being belittled killing our self worth and last our self esteem.

So, what can we do to change the fear of change? Before I break down the steps, there is a statement I always like to chant and remind myself, “change is a process” “things happens in its right timing”.

1. Awareness and self-reflection: Start by acknowledging your fear of change and understanding its root causes. Reflect on your past experiences and beliefs that may have contributed to this fear. Developing self-awareness is an important step towards overcoming it.
2. Education and information: Learn about the benefits of change and how it can lead to personal growth and new opportunities. Educate yourself on different perspectives, cultures, and ways of thinking to broaden your understanding of the world. This knowledge can help you see change as a positive force.
3. Start small: Begin by making small changes in your daily life. This could include trying new activities, exploring different interests, or changing your routine. Gradually exposing yourself to manageable changes can help build confidence and reduce fear.
4. Seek support: Surround yourself with a supportive network of friends, family, or mentors who can provide encouragement and guidance during times of change. Sharing your fears and concerns with trusted individuals can help alleviate anxiety and provide valuable insights.
5. Embrace a growth mindset: Adopt a mindset that sees challenges and change as opportunities for learning and personal development. Embrace the idea that change is a natural part of life and can lead to positive outcomes.
6. Practice self-care: Taking care of your physical and mental well-being is crucial when facing change. Engage in activities that help reduce stress, such as exercise, mindfulness, or creative outlets. Prioritize self-care to build resilience and manage anxiety associated with change.
7. Set goals: Establish specific and achievable goals related to the changes you want to make. Breaking down the process into smaller steps can make it more manageable and less overwhelming. Celebrate your progress along the way, no matter how small.