Sistahs sorry as you can see by the timing of my post, my busy life has caught up with me again and I have not posted like I promised…. but Sistahs, this blog topic fell in my lap like bricks literally. Recognizing it’s time to stop living in what it was and live in what it is. 

If you are like me, it’s hard to step out of what it was life and say to yourself …ok girl it is time to accept what it is. It really goes back to my very first post, afraid of change in life. When thinking about “What it was vs. What it is” sounds like it could only be just centered around relationships. But nah, this statement can relate to you in all areas of your life. 

So how should women, ok and men I’m including you in this one too this time handle the difference between “what is was” vs. “what it is”? Well like I say these are my thoughts and my thoughts only but again some of y’all may relate. But here’s what I feel, my top 3: 

1. First you must acknowledge there is change from what it was. Just like the world around us changes, as humans, we also change overtime. But it is still sometimes hard to see what it is, is not what it was. Deep right? Because as humans we don’t want to accept or should I say see that it is time to see what is in the past, is in the past and understand the present is what it is. Therefore, acknowledging that change is a natural part of life is easy but accepting that “What It Is” might be different from “What It Was.” you must understand what is clinging you to hold onto the past and hinder your personal growth to accept what it is now that needs to be seen. Question for your journal, why am I not able to see what it is and only can still see what it was in your life you need reflect on to embrace the change you desire. Journaling always helps me to mind map my thoughts on paper. 
2. Try to practice mindfulness to stay in the present moment. Dwelling too much on “What It Was” or worrying about “What It Is” in the future can cause stress and anxiety. Mindfulness helps you focus on the here and now.
3. Seek Support: I have no problem with seeking support from my close friends, mentors and sometimes family. “Sidebar ALERT” Notice I said, “sometimes family”. Well, you know family can be bias to the situation with close family members and will only speak what you want to hear, not on what you need hear to know to protect your feelings. So, for me, I am always a little hesitate to reach out to my family on deep subject matters in my life. But yes, talking to others can provide valuable perspectives and encouragement as you navigate change.

I end with this…Be positive Sistahs and for this post, you too fellas! Never let what is on your mind become your soul!